This is an extension of the childs understanding

first_img This is an extension of the child’s understanding of integrity, but it also, at least in older toddlers, encompasses an understanding of equity. Talking a child out of this understanding would be a horrific act. I know that people have done this ignorantly – which is certainly less bad for them than doing it purposely – but it doesn’t minimize the damage done to the child… and to the adult he or she will become. “It’s not fair.” If you let me duplicate a report on your copy machine, I should help you in some way, perhaps to help paint your porch. This exchange is not equal – we’re not going to count sheets of paper, ounces of paint and minutes of work – but we will expect the other to do something as a recompense. That’s equity, though not equality. And children come quickly to understand that as well. Respecting Children Children may be ignorant, but they are not entirely ignorant. They understand basic concepts early, even if they aren’t yet able to explain them. And those understandings should never be taken from them. Children should be treated with respect. What they do know should be left alone to grow. What they lack should be added to them… gently. Yes, children need correction too, but that should be undertaken for the improvement of the child, not the convenience of the adult. Children are adults in a preliminary form. They deserve our respect; we should never talk them out of truths. Paul Rosenberg FreemansPerspective.com Think about what is implied by this statement: The child expects integrity, even demands it. The same thought, set in adult terms, would be this: You said. “Fairness,” however, is not simply equality; it is also equity. We all know the concept of equity, though we seldom use the word very well. If you say something, you must also act upon it, or else you negate your own words and thus judge yourself to be bad. Not only is that opinion very clear and healthy, but it is the basis of all contracts and agreements. It is also the basis of morality, and was precisely that in the eyes of Jesus of Nazareth:last_img

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